Just because you are a parent doesn’t mean you can’t be kinky anymore. It doesn’t have to stop at all actually.
If you have children make sure to set routines. As a Submissive you should have your own routines, but with the children on a schedule and routine things can run a lot smoother. Not just for you, but also for your home. Especially if your children are school aged. Making sure everyone gets a good amount of sleep so no one acts out the following day due to lack of sleep. If children don’t get enough sleep they can possibly run wold all day and let’s be honest...nobody wants kids running wild all day. The hours after the kids go to bed you can have time to yourself or time alone with you and your Sir. It’s your chance to do non-mom things, such as learning more about BDSM. We should always be trying to find out new information.
Maybe play quieter with each other when around the children. Maybe you are a screamer or a loud moaner...first of all that isn’t a bad thing at all. When around the kids you obvosly can’t be doing that and besides paddles and floggers can be rather loud at times depending on the intesnsity. Make a game out of it when you have to be quieter. Maybe when you and Sir are sitting side by side and he slides his hand on your lap and gives it a lil squeeze. Mhmmm...yup...enjoy it, but don’t moan out loud. Or perhaps your are kneeling beside Sir’s desk and he pulls your hair a little to give you a kiss...yup don’t moan...He’ll let you go and you gotta act calm and collective. Maybe you are washing dishes and Sir smacks your butt when walking by. I am sure he does that any time he passes you, but do you squeak, squeal, gasp, or make a sound out loud or do you keep it in your mind quietly and just enjoy it? Perhaps you are watching a movie together...Instead of talking hold your Sir’s hand and sqeeze 3 times to say I love you. It doesn’t disrupt the movie like whispering or talking would do and lets face it nobody likes being talked to when there is a movie on.
When you make it through the day that evening you could get a great reward. Maybe ypur kids went out to play in the yard while you recived your reward. Or maybe have them watch a movie and disappear quietly. Sneeking away always makes me feel like teenage sweethearts. Yup totally makes me gigglie just thinking about it.
You just gotta be smart if you are going to bring the lifestyle outside your bedroom. You can do all this even while in public. Once again you just gotta be smart. We will talk on how to move BDSM out of the bedroom. It takes time, but you gotta be smart
#YouGottaBeSmart
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