My Friend with Benifits...

      So as I may have mentioned before, my Master and I have opened our marriage.  I had met a few guys to see if they would be a good fit for me, but most set my anxiety into full gear; and lets face it, anything that causes anxiety is never any good. Well....I have picked the one I want and who wants to please me in the ways I need satisfied. My Master does satisfy me. Let’s get that straight right now, but my second Dominate leaves what I call “beauty marks”.

      He has shown me that he RESPECTS me. Let’s talk about a big way Dominates show RESPECT...Say you have both agreed to a scene or meet up. However you want to look at it. I look at it as hanging out lol. So one day my friend with benefits came over and I was still new to the open marriage idea. I felt like it was a trap every time. Even with PERMISSION from my Master, I still felt like it was wrong. There are still days where I feel it is wrong. Well one day I ended up using my safe word because my anxiety was all boom I’m back b***h!!! Ugh it was hell for me in my head that day and I’m not sure why it happened, but all the sudden I said the safeword and he stopped. He stopped everything and tried to make sure I was okay. A Dominate who cares is a true Dom. Of course with the mind set I was in I pushed him out and away for a bit. He still messaged me and we talked. I kept him at a distance for about three weeks before he figured out what was going on in my mind. I will admit I do love that we can talk, It is good to be able to talk to your dominate’s. 

      Yes, I am now putting the “friend with benefits/playmate” as a Dominate (Dominant #2). I don’t do this lightly either and he and I have made it clear that our families will ALWAYS come first. Honestly, I expect nothing less, but will very much enjoy the time I do get with him. I want to talk about today because today we talked about how I was offered a chance to get spanked while bent over a bench. You are probably asking and thinking...Why in the world would you want to be spanked?!?!? Two words...stress reliever. Lol. No joke though. BDSM is NOT about pain though! Let’s make that perfectly clear. Anyways...we chatted and he asked me “Are you going to go?” First though “that’s a freaking trick question!!!” Last time I played with someone without telling him, he told me he was hurt. I didn’t tell him though. That was my biggest oops. Won’t ever make that oops again. I was honest with him though about this and did tell him that the bench had excited me, but then I had admitted to having a small “string” attachment. I thought for sure he was going to cut me or put more time between our visit. Instead he told me we could build a bench; and that made me happy. Not only would I still get the experience and the spankings, but I would get to have the experience with someone I know and TRUST. Getting me to TRUST is already hard. We also agreed if drama happened on either side we would put a stop to us as well. 

      When another man is willing to earn your trust, have patience with you, learn your likes and dislikes, respects boundaries and limits, one who gives you space when you need it, one who is willing to give you what you need is on worth giving a shot to. This one is also willing to check in on me and the kids while my Master is out of state; for a visual that all is okay. Normally that wouldn’t be allowed, but my Master TRUSTS Dominant #2. 

      Thank you Master and Dominate #2 for being patient with me. You are both great men 

Trust

        Trust is a touchy subject with some, but to me it is important. Let me ask you a question. I want you to stop and really think about it too. 

Do you trust your partner with your life? 

Think about it hard. 

Now ask yourself do you trust yourself? 

I want you to really sit and think. 

    Now I can tell you that I trust my Master. In fact I trust him with my life. I also know if anything happened he is the first person I go to and the first person who would show up. We tell each other everything.

Can you tell your spouse/partner/Dom everything? Can you truly be 100% honest with them? Can you hand them your phone unlocked and let them open whatever app or messages they wanted to. If you can’t hand it over without worry then you either need to learn to trust yourself or you are hiding something. 

I will admit it is hard for me to let my Master go through my phone, But that is cause of my past. Has nothing to do with hiding anything because I keep no secrets from my Master. In order to have that trust there needs to be honesty and communication.

Bulls

    Do you know what a "Bull" is? Do you know what they do? Do you know their wants; their desires? Well a Bull is a man who engages in sex with a woman whose partner enjoys the cuckold dynamic. Normally the Wife is considred a "Hot Wife"

Our 100th post!!!

    Look everybody!!! This is my 100th post!!! To those that have followed me from the start. I appreciate you all and all your support. There were some bumps along the way, but we are doing great and still standing strong. This has been fun and hopefully has been informative. Just because one person is into BDSM doesn't make them a bad person. In fact it is scientifically proven that it is actually very healthy.

    I think today we are going to talk about the difference between Domestic Violence and the touch of a Dominant. I think there is a HUGE difference and it needs to be known. Abuse and fear go hand in hand, but fear can also cause arousal. Which is why partners need to be careful and always keep an eye out for red flags. Abuse is unwanted contact. It's punches and slaps to the face that are received out of anger. It's hitting and touching of any part of the body that isn't asked for. An abuser will be little you 

    When a Dom touches ones body it is aggressively, but at the end there is aftercare and love. Or at least care. Which could be taking a shower together, tending to any wounds or marks that were left.  Dom's leave marks, but all the marks they leave are wanted, begged for, asked for. The Sub still wears a smile on their face even when out  and about with their Dom. It is the want and the craving. The ravishing...man handling. It's fun and consensual. 

   In the back of your mind I feel if you question it, then most likely you need to do some serious thinking about your relationship, but BDSM relationships will talk about what is consensual and what is not. They discuss limits. I mean it takes a lot of trust to even Submit to someone. I mean like you need to know you can trust them with YOUR life. 

BDSM Terms...

    So I use the term "adulting" and either get a snicker or a weird look. I'll admit when one friend does it she makes it all cute so I don't mind it, but at the same time she is why I chose to talk about BDSM terms and what they mean. To me and in the lifestyle.

    Adulting: Okay so this one isn't a real word, but it is  a word mostly used by a Submissive or a Little. It means to be adult like and take care of adult things such as taking care of the kids, paying bills, cleaning house and cooking food. To some adulting can be hard mentally and can be stressful and scary. Especially if they have any anxiety. 

Little-Space: When I am in "Little Space" it means I am fully relaxed. I can look at the world with wonder and excitement and without the fear of being judged or made fun of or hearing I am crazy or "whatever floats your boat" (omg I hate that line sooo much). I can color all I want, carry stuffies, be a little sassy, dress up all pretty...If you see me doing any of those around you I either trust you or my anxiety is bad and I need to calm my mind. I know I am fully safe with my Master and I have found 1 couple/ family I feel 100% safe to be me around, but being around others who I know don't accept me for me is hard. If I can't be me then I have to continue to suppress and hide the real me around you and I just can't do that anymore. 

BDSM: Bondage/Discipline, Dominance/Submission, Sadism/Masochism: a combined acronym often used as a catchall for anything in the kink scene.

Collaring: The formal acceptance by a dominant, of a sub's service, or the "ownership" of a pup by a Master or Trainer. Also the ceremony when a dominant commits to a sub (much like a wedding or other contract).

Knife Play: Slow, methodical sensation of the bottom with the edges and points of knives, usually without cutting the skin. Fear of the weapon plays a large part in the stimulus of the bottom.

Limits: What someone will not participate in (hard limits), or is hesitant to do so (soft limits).


Bondage: A term that means tying of the partner’s limbs together while using restraints. This can include use of handcuffs, ropes or chains. Discipline, on the other hand, refers to psychological restraint or use of physical punishment such as whipping.

Dominance and submission refers to rituals that deal with a more mental aspect of BDSM. It involves giving or receiving control of one partner over another. There are often contracts laid out in these types of relationships, such as with Christian and Ana. Contracts outline formal consent and the aspects of how their relationship is to be laid out. These contracts, however, are not legally binding.

Sadism and masochism, sometimes shortened to sadomasochism, refers to the exchange of physical or emotional pain. Sadism is the pleasure someone derives from inflicting pain upon a partner. On the other hand, in masochism the partner gains pleasure from being hurt.

Masochism: Act of receiving pain for sensual/sexual pleasure 

Masochist: Person who enjoys pain, usually sexually

Master/ Slave:  A consensual relationship in which one person receives control (the Master) when given it by another (the slave) for mutual benefit. An extreme form of D/s which usually involves a 24/7 relationship rather than a short period of time (scene or perhaps a week end.) The slave will usually accept a collar from their Master to show that they are owned.

Munch: A group of people that are into BDSM meeting at a "vanilla" place in street-appropriate attire. Sometimes this is a club. You might see an announcement like, "This weekend's munch is at Denny's".

Needle Play: Temporary piercings done with sterile needles of different gauges, usually only for the duration of a scene.

Aftercare: The time after a BDSM scene or play session in which the participants calm down, discuss the previous events and their personal reactions to them, and slowly come back in touch with reality. BDSM often involves an endorphin high and very intense experience, and failure to engage in proper aftercare can lead to subdrop as these return to more everyday levels.

Animal Play: In this case the Sub acts  or dresses like an animal (cat, puppy, horse, pig, etc.) 

Openness: In a relationship is what makes it flourish. BDSM, when practiced in a safe, consensual manner, can bring a relationship between partners to new levels of intimacy. 

Safeword: A coded word a Sub can use to force BDSM activity to stop – It is used especially in scenes which may involve consensual force.

Service-Oriented Submissive: A person who enjoys performing a service in a sexual or BDSM environment.

Wax play: The top drips hot wax on the bottom.

A common myth about BDSM is that it is “all about pain.” In actuality, it is about the exchange of power and pleasure. It is also about trust and if you can't trust your partner 100% then you can't truly submit or give the power of exchange. 

Practitioners stress the importance of safety and consent in BDSM. There are several phrases that are used such as “safe, sane and consensual,” or “risk aware consensual kink.”  These ideals stress that all aspects of play are discussed for truly informed consent. 

BDSM is practiced by all kinds of partners of different sexualites and arrangements. The important thing to remember is to be open to your partner about any kind of kink you want to try out, and to be safe about it.

Openness in a relationship is what makes it flourish. BDSM, when practiced in a safe, consensual manner, can bring a relationship between partners to new levels of intimacy. 

You need to be able to trust your Master and you two need to be able to communicate openly and honestly. If you CAN NOT trust your spouse 110% this is NOT for you. 

Tasks and Training...

    Are you married to your Submissive or Slave? Maybe you two aren't married, but live together. Or maybe you two even live apart. Do you have chores or tasks for them to do while you are away??? You really should. Submissive's and Slaves LOVE to me told what to do. So don't feel bad when you tell them do do something. it in fact pleases them.

-Tell her to get you things and bring them to you

-Have a chore chart or a list of chores you expect to be done before you return home

-Have them remove your shoes/boots when you return home

-Have an exercise routines for them...after all health is important

-Morning selfies to approve outfit before leaving the house
pictures of food eaten to prove they have in fact ate

-Set a caffeine amount they are allowed (trying to keep them accountable with pictures)

-Demand texts before they leave the house to say where they are  going, a text to let you know they made it safely to the destination

-Have the Submissive/ Slave check in every few hours if you are away at work for a while (unless you can't text during work then when they have breaks

-Have them send a picture for each chore as they are finished

-Have a set bed time for them

-Have the Sub or Slave wear kegle balls through out the day

-Make them wear a tail or butt plug for certain amount of time

-Have them select 2 or 3 pairs of panties for the next day and pick a pair you want her to wear

-Have her wear nipple clamps under the Sub's top





Making it a task from their dominant is a great way to make sticking to it a whole lot more fun.

A Hurt Submissive

    

    It isn’t easy being a natural Submissive at times. No we don’t just submit to just anyone, but our mind....well that tends to be another story. Just kidding...relax...

I knew when I was a freshmen in high school that I was different. I remember one day my now Ex boyfriend had driven me up a river road to his Dad’s house. Now this Ex is “Cowboy”...y’all remember him mentioned a while back??? Today is the day his story comes out. Now granted...”Cowboy” and I still do chat here and there. We of course now have our own families, but remain friends at a distance.

Anyways back to the story...One day Cowboy was driving us up to his Dad’s place in his truck. It was time to feed the horses since sunset was coming. Anyways on our way up to his and his Dad’s place thoughts of me being tied up popped into my head. I wanted him to tie me up ladies and gentlemen and have his way with me. I wanted him to tie me up and bend me over the passenger side seat and fuck me. I wanted him to drag me off into the barn...I mean the thoughts were dirty and for the longest time I thought something was wrong me. 

Well we continued “dating” and he was my first real boyfriend so I was still scared and nervous and well....really scared, but not of him, but of my thoughts. I was taught that those thoughts are bad. That I would go to hell for them. Those thoughts always seemed fun and relaxed my mind though. All honesty those thoughts calm my mind. Still even to this day. Anyways....I NEVER told him ANY of these thoughts. I never told anybody.Till many years later...

    Cowboy would pick me up from school and drive me to my Parent’s house. We had a play room with a dart board, ping-pong table, love seat and a tv so we went to the play room and would toss darts. He would go and then come my turn he would wrap his arms around me and kiss my neck. I would get so scared and nervous for getting in trouble with my parents because I wasn’t taught that it was okay to show affection. I rarely ever saw my parents show each other affection. So I would push him away and off me so we wouldn’t get into any trouble because back then I loved having him around. He made me laugh. My mind always went blank when I was around him. It was freeing. It was different and it was scary, but I felt safe

Omgoodness his truck...let me tell you about this truck he drove when we were together...It was a light blue truck...flat bed of course since he and his dad lived and worked on a ranch. Well that truck would ALWAYS break down. Right in front of my parents house too. Lol. I laugh about it now because back then it was one of the reasons why we broke up. That and I was crazy shy due to my thoughts. He would swear at his truck as he fixed it. I sat and watched him from my window because I wasn’t allowed out. Well we dated few more months before we eventually split. Our time together though I will always remember. He was a great man to me and had I not been to sheltered and taught certain things then maybe he and I would still be together. Rumor had it back then he was gonna ask me to be his lady. He even had/has the ring. Little ole me had to clue though and so things fell apart and we in time broke up. When he left everything in me broke and I became numb. 

My heart had been broken and I was hurting badly. I didn’t think I would ever be happy again. So my next relationship I looked for someone like my Step-Dad because we were taught every girl wants a man like her Dad. Well let me tell you....that was WRONG!!! I did it though. I found a guy who would treat me great in front of others. Behind the closed doors unless things went his way and he was made happy I would. I was belittled and put down. I was told I would never find anyone because I had kids, I was over weight, I didn’t have a job...I mean they could make lists and it sucked. 

    One day my little spirit couldn’t take it anymore and I ran. None of that marriage was healthy and I knew he wasn’t the one I was supposed to marry. I moved while everyone was away and hid. I am still hiding to a point to make me feel safe and my mind calm a little. 

    During my divorce I found my Master and now only he can calm my mind with a kiss, touch, or voice. My Master is the only one I have talked about my Submissive side with. He is the only one who has let me be me and shine and let me tell you ladies...when you find “Mr. Right” let me tell ya...you will know. When you kiss you will feel yourself melt into his arms. You’ll be overcome with safety and feeling of safety. I remember when my Master and I had our first kiss...I had felt things I had NEVER EVER felt before. I knew my Master is the one I am supposed to be with. Almost 10 years later and my Master and I are very happy together.

    My point today is if you feel safe and you feel it is right and you can sleep that night then go have fun and enjoy each other, but if you feel you have to be something you aren’t, hide the real you, or maybe you have to hide for safety then you REALLY need to get out of there and quickly. Don’t stay around anyone who makes you feel small, not safe, not wanted...you be you and SHINE!!!

A Slave's Prayer

Allow me strength to answer questions I can not fathom

Allow me the spirit to know His needs

Allow me the serenity to serve Him in peace

Allow me the love to show Him myself

Allow me the tenderness to comfort Him

Allow me the wisdom to be an asset to Him

Allow me the to show Him each day the love of my service for Him

Let me open myself up, to completely belong to Him

Let me accept my punishments with the grace of a woman

Let me learn to please him, beyond myself

Grant me the power to give myself to Him completely    

Give me the power to please us  both

Permit me to love myself, in loving him

For it is my greatest wish, my highest power to make His life complete as he makes mine

This one I typed up as if you were to say it. Neither prayers are mine to take credit for, but both are great to reminders to take time to pray and to also pray for your Master. Remember your mental health is important. Take a few minutes to yourself everyday.  

A Submissive’s Prayer

Allow me the strength to answer questions I can’t fathom.

Allow me the spirit to know His needs.

Allow me the kindness to choke back retorts.

Allow me the serenity to serve Him in peace.

Allow me the love to show Him myself.

Allow me the tenderness to comfort Him.

Allow me the light to show us the way.

Allow me the wisdom to be an asset to Him.

Let me be able to show Him each day my love of my service to Him.

Let me open myself up to completely belong to Him.

Let my eyes show Him the same respect, rather I sit at his side, or kneel at his feet.

Let me accept my punishment with the grace of a woman.

Let me learn to please Him, beyond myself.

Grant me the power to give myself to Him completely.

Give me the strength to please us both.

Permit me to love myself, in loving Him.

Allow me the peace of serving Him.

For it is my greatest wish, my highest power To make his life complete, as he makes mine.

This prayer should be said daily if not multiple times. Not because you need to or should, but because it is also a great reminder of what we should be or need to be doing for our Dominate

If you have been hurt...

 

    Let’s start out by saying “How Rude”. I want to tell ALL you Submissive’s, Little’s, Brats...I even want to include the Tops, Dom’s, Daddy’s in this post as well and the reason for this post is because one was used as a “Bad Example”. All because one fell away from a “church”, started wearing only dresses with stockings unless working out then one is to wear their active clothing. One got used as a “Bad Example” because one is different. They don’t understand that one needs a little bit extra attention than a norm would. One likes to color and read in free time and to relax. One loves to wear cat ears while out and about. Home is the ONLY place one feels safe.

   

  I want you all to know that it is okay to be you!!! It is perfectly fine to be different!!!

 The worldly people these days are so mean, hateful and judge mental and let’s be honest...none of us need or want that kind of stress around. If your vibes as a Sub, Little, Brat, Slave are off around someone even a little bit you need to let your Dom or Mistress know. After all it is their job to protect. If anyone talks bad about you let them know. Fixing a Submissive’s broken spirt isn’t always easy.

 Never be afraid to shine!!! Cut out the toxic ness. Get rid of everything that makes you feel bad in life. If it has negative energy then it will become toxic and nobody wants a toxic person. 

 

    YOU MAY BE DIFFERENT FROM A NORM, BUT NEVER HIDE OR CHANGE WHO YOU ARE TO MAKE ANYONE HAPPY.

Parenting and still living the lifestyle (Family First)

    

    Just because you are a parent doesn’t mean you can’t be kinky anymore. It doesn’t have to stop at all actually. 

    If you have children make sure to set routines. As a Submissive you should have your own routines, but with the children on a schedule and routine things can run a lot smoother. Not just for you, but also for your home. Especially if your children are school aged.  Making sure everyone gets a good amount of sleep so no one acts out the following day due to lack of sleep. If children don’t get enough sleep they can possibly run wold all day and let’s be honest...nobody wants kids running wild all day. The hours after the kids go to bed you can have time to yourself or time alone with you and your Sir. It’s your chance to do non-mom things, such as learning more about BDSM. We should always be trying to find out new information. 

    Maybe play quieter with each other when around the children. Maybe you are a screamer or a loud moaner...first of all that isn’t a bad thing at all. When around the kids you obvosly can’t be doing that and besides paddles and floggers can be rather loud at times depending on the intesnsity. Make a game out of it when you have to be quieter. Maybe when you and Sir are sitting side by side and he slides his hand on your lap and gives it a lil squeeze. Mhmmm...yup...enjoy it, but don’t moan out loud. Or perhaps your are kneeling beside Sir’s desk and he pulls your hair a little to give you a kiss...yup don’t moan...He’ll let you go and you gotta act calm and collective. Maybe you are washing dishes and Sir smacks your butt when walking by. I am sure he does that any time he passes you, but do you squeak, squeal, gasp, or make a sound out loud or do you keep it in your mind quietly and just enjoy it? Perhaps you are watching a movie together...Instead of talking hold your Sir’s hand and sqeeze 3 times to say I love you. It doesn’t disrupt the movie like whispering or talking would do and lets face it nobody likes being talked to when there is a movie on. 

    When you make it through the day that evening you could get a great reward. Maybe ypur kids went out to play in the yard while you recived your reward. Or maybe have them watch a movie and disappear quietly. Sneeking away always makes me feel like teenage sweethearts. Yup totally makes me gigglie just thinking about it. 

    You just gotta be smart if you are going to bring the lifestyle outside your bedroom. You can do all this even while in public. Once again you just gotta be smart. We will talk on how to move BDSM out of the bedroom. It takes time, but you gotta be smart

#YouGottaBeSmart

Listening...

    

         When you are with your Dominate all the multi-tasking stops! When he speaks he is the only one you are to listen to at that moment. When you have a Dominate you should ALWAYS give them your full attention. So many people these days are addicted to their phone worried they may miss something. Maybe you’re bored so you thought surfing it would be a great way to pass the time, but at the same time you’re missing out on the things around you. When I get bored I clean or pick up a book. 

    Lately I’ve been thinking about looking into the games Sir plays just to understand some of the things he talks about. It is always smart/wise to understand your Dominate’s likes and dislikesww

    Remember you have to be able to chat about random topics. If your Dom is a nerd I suggest looking to understand games that you know they enjoy playing. Or perhaps listen to podcasts you know they rather enjoy. 

   

    Maybe I’ll do a stream on Twitch sometime and we can even work through a game or two. Sometimes hands on is best way to go. Even if the games may frustrate us hahaha. I will admit Mario games are always my game of choice.

    We should always strive to understand our Dom’s and that way we can have smart intillectual conversations. It helps make us feel smart too. I am sure that brings a smile to your face knowing that you sound smart too.

    Be attentive when your Sir is speaking to you. Like I said earlier...give your Dominate your full attention, be attentive when your Sir is speaking to you...ALL the multitasking stops! Your mind has to end when he speaks. If you inturupt...it isn’t just rude, but disrecpectful to your Dom. Never speak out of turn. Always wait till your Dom is finished speaking before you speak. Or wait till you are given permission. When speaking with your Dom your responses should be affirmative or neutral, but with respect of course. 

    As a Submissive I recommend journaling your feelings for the day or week. However often you choose to write in your journal. I try to write daily, but that doesn’t always seem to happen and it is never in the same book twice. You can write your fantasies in it as well. No matter how crazy they may be. Everybody has a few dark fanities and if you say you never have you are a freaking liar. The more dirty minds that are put together the more dirty ideas can be put together. If you journaling your fantisies make sure to not leave out any details. Some Submissives let their Dom read them that way the Dom can understand their Submissive’s needs and desires. Sometimes the Dom will act out the desire/fantisies. It is okay to have desires. It is completly normal. Sometimes writting out our feelings, thoughts and desires is the best way we are able to express ourselves when it comes to us journaling about them.

    So when out and about or at home listen and give your full attention to your Dom. Not only will they be happy with you, but it could all end with a very satisfiying reward as well. I would hope you all enjoy being rewarded:-).

Punishments...

    Nope it isn’t as bad as you actully think. It can actully be quite fun if done properly. Let me remind you all that within the lifestyle everything done is within agreement. 

    Ever out in public with your Sir and he gives you a look because you did something wrong, out of line or what about that “I dare you” look??? Or maybe you did it on purpose just to be a brat and to get a reaction. What happened once you got home? Were you able to talk Sir out of the punishment or are you in for it when you get home?

  There are many kinds of punishments...Some fun some not fun

Lines: Make your Submissive write the same saying repeatedly for a certian amount of times. Normally it is at least 100 lines saying “I WILL NOT [FOBIDDEN ACTION]

Time Out: Make your Submissive stand/sit in a corner. Could even have them stand on their tip-toes with the tip of their nose against the wall and if she lowered feet before allowed time make time start over or spank and then send them back to start again. 

Spankings: I would go no more than 20 and even then that is pushing it. Other’s could be canning and or paddling. Evn then it depends on the tool being used and the impact. Have the Submissive count out each whipping and increse intensity as you go.

Silent Treatment: What better way to make your Submissive learn their lesson real fast than to not talk to them. Now this one all depends on you and your dynamic. I know I can’t go long woithout talking to Sir. I hate this one most of all because even thoughwe can go a while without talking to one another the silent treament hurts the most and breaks me down to my core. To me beinging ignored is putting you in last place. As if I don’t matter t all and that isn’t even the case. It is just where my mind goes and guess what you guys...it’s normal. That is why it is a punishment. 

Bondage: Tied in different forms or being tied in a kneeling pose having to balance a book on top of their head or hold their hands straight out and balance holding a book for desired amount of time. Using a cage can take bondage to an extreme level as well if desired.

Restrictive Discipline: Taking things away. Of course if you want to take something away you would be wise to take away something they like or enjoy.

-Not being on cell

-Not being able to sleep

-No eye contact

-No eating fav foods

-Not being in same room

Once your Submissive shows they are sorry or you feel they have been disciplined long enough the discipline can be lifted.

Kneeling: It’s a common punishment to make it more extreme have your Submissive or Slave kneel on rice for a chosen amount of time. Legos work as well ha ha ha. 

Lecture and Punishment: Perhaps you feel the only way to learn a lesson is to give them a lecture followed by a punishment. Normally this one goes hand in hand with writting lines.

Mental Bondage: Maybe you require the Sub to stay in the same place for an amount of time where breaking the pose could result in another punisment to follow or added time to disired punishment time.

Pointless Chores: Perhaps your Sub did a little oops and you decided to have a little fun. Make them do a few pointless chores. Such as refolding the towels to give them a nice fluff. Or maybe you want certain cups washed to make sure they have no dust on them. 

Public Humility: Wearing a sign that states the mistake is a safe way to publicly humliate anyone. Other forms could be masterbating in public, nnouncing when their Sub or Slave is horny. Have them walk around with cum in still in them and running down their legs while walking around in public. If you have a Submissive or Slave who like to wear tails maybe make them eat out of pet dishes while out in public. 

         I have one more punishment that comes to mind, but I don’t recommend this one, but if you have a Submissive or Slave who wear a collar...perhaps Remove Collar and forbid the Submissive or Slave from wearing it for a desired amount of time. A collar is a reminder of your bond and if removed for any reason should effect the Submissive or Slave mentally and emotionally as well. Removing of a collar can break a Submissive or Slave within seconds if they truly understand the meaning behind their collar. So be very careful if you do choose to use this punishment.

       Dom’s don’t normally look for reasons to punish their Submissive or Slave. Then again if the Submissive or Slave is acting out. They could just be pushing for a play punishment. So always kee an eye out for cues.

Domestic/Service Submissives

Domestic/Service Submission,

        

          First of all it isn’t always easy to be a Submissive. It does come with self discipline, respect, honesty and love. You have to be 100% honest with your Dominant. You need to be able to trust them 100%. If even just the smallest percent of you doesn’t trust your Dominant or Misstress then your heart, mind, and body will NOT fully submit. There can NOT be any second guessing or things could end terribly wrong and that wouln’t be fair to either of you. So when you hear Submissive it isn’t about just being the partner and getting sex. Actully just like any relationship you will need to do your part, but there is more asked.

        There is far more to service than just the play and sex. Service is an act to make your Dominant’s life easier. A Service Submissive seeks only to serve. Their serving makes them happy and can fin joy in serving. This can include even the minimal tasks. Such as laying out of your Dominat’s clothing while he is in the shower. Maybe even preparing breakfast and a beverage. 

        A Domestic Submissive serves, but for a different reason. Both Domestic and Service Sub’s gain happiness and fulliment out of our services, but the services can be different. Many times a Domestic Submissive will have minimal to no sexual interaction with their Dominate or Owner. 

Some things that come with being a Domestic Sub is 

-Cooking

-Cleaning

-Grooming

-Health

-Personal Trainer

-Pet Care

-Home Repair (fixing. or calling someone to fix)

-Car Repair

-Organization

-Event Planning

-Child Care

-Chauffeur

-Scheduling

-Secretarial

-Intellectual Conversationalist 

Finding meaning or happiness in service isn’t always easy. You have to know what you wnat and don’t want out of a relationship. Once you have idintified what you want and need it’ll be able to figure out your services.

Service Subbmissives seek only to serve. There is happiness found in the Dominate and Submissive when she serves. You have to be able to adapt to whatever needs their partner needs or requires of them.

 Service Submissives would be great at job such as:

Personal Assiant; taking call, answering phones, answering the door, responding/replying to emails. 

Body Servant; bathing, shaving, grooming, and overall health care of the Dominate

Escort; social elitist (ability to bring attention to your Dom), chat about all sots of things such as world topics or it could be to just look beautiful on their arm and to not speak at all unless spoken to. 

It isn’t easy. Some Dom’s leave their Sub’s daily tasks to finish before a certian time of day or till their Dom gets home that day. They could be new tasks or tasks added upon your tasks...either way your job is to get them done