Bondage...

    How many of you have seen the movie "Fifty Shades of Grey"? Now in that movie you may have noticed bondage was done in quite a few scenes. Ties, rope, cable ties...Although I don't recommend using cable ties unless you are smart because using them can be very dangerous. All in all though if you have not done research or practiced bondage I recommend you learning first. 

    Things that can be used for bondage are:

• Ties
• Cable ties
• Rope
• Bondage tape
• Handcuffs
• Cuffs that connect by a lock or chain (different from handcuffs)
• Ribbon

You can use anything as long as it is used safely and wisely. Even the shirt you have on at the moment can be used to tie you up one way or another. You just gotta think and be smart. 

    The most common thing used for bondage is rope. Luckily there are many different types of ropes. You just gotta find one that works for you. Whatever kind of bondage you use you need to make sure you have a key and or a pair of scissors. Once that safe word is used you gotta stop and release them. If you don't release them when the agreed upon safeword is used then it becomes rape and nobody should take it to that level. 

    Some good books for bondage are: 

• Shibari: The Japanese Art of Erotic Bondage. Guide for Beginners

• Shibari You Can Use: Japanese Rope Bondage and Erotic Macramé

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  Two Knotty Boys Back on the Ropes

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  Bondage Basics: Naughty Knots and Risque Restraints You Need to Know

Again these are just a few books.. There are many more. The ones I have listed you can find on amazon.com. 

    Not everyone is into bondage and that is okay. Every dynamic is different because everyone is different and likes different things. So to add bondage of any kind I suggest you talk to your partner and communicate your likes and dislikes. Remember to always have a safe word.

    There is also bondage in a normal/vanilla relationship as well. it is the bond in your heart with your relationship. Every woman ought to understand her worth and value as a person and this is something that should be instilled even from girlhood. When a man puts down a woman in private or in public, criticises her looks, attacks her self-esteem or body image, talks down on her, calls her names, withholds affection or attention in order to hurt her, emotionally blackmails her or withdraws emotionally in order to bend or break her, that’s abuse.

Do not let yourself be put in bondage or enslaved by a man simply because you want to be in a relationship or married. If any of the above describes your relationship, you need to be honest with yourself; recognise abuse for what it is and emancipate yourself. In a healthy relationship, there is mutual support, admiration, empathy and kindness. Both partners are fully on board and each one pulls their weight, creating incredible opportunities for growth and progress individually and as a couple.

Bondage can be great or it can break you...Which kind of bondage do you want. I know I would want the fun bondage...