Stages of Intimacy

    So there are stages and levels to everything in life...There just isn't a way around that fact.

    So what are these stages I keep talking about???

    I am talking about Infatuation, Landing, Burying, Resurfacing and Love.

  Infatuation is something that makes your dopamine levels high. This dopamine if high enough will make you feel like you are on a different planet. This can be done by simple touches, kisses, hugs....It is like being high on heroin, but sooooo much better. You feel safe, wanted, needed, but I don't know how to explain it, but once it stops I slowly land and come back down and am in the world again.

Landing can feel light and sweet. It is where we see clearly.

Burying isn't always a bad thing, but it where all the lists come toppling over it is where things show that need to be worked on. Focusing on who is doing laundry, who is doing dishes...how boring.  It is a sign that the relationship is real though, but you also have to remember to unbury yourself as well. Take lessons to something new, buy some sex toys, tie yourself to a bedpost or grab some whips. Do something you like, but allows you to also take a break.

Now Resurfacing is where all those feelings you once forgot all come swimming back. He's amazing or she is stunning. It is like a mixed bag of candies or as Forest Gump says "Life is like a box of chocolates. You never know what ones you'll get". You gotta look forward to having dates together again and find that time to spend together to keep the flame going.

Now that last stage is love...

    Love is where you are in awe of one another. You can look at one another and think Oh my goodness...I am the luckiest person in the world. You can walk by them and just giggle and blush. Or see their picture pop up on your cell...and you basically become a little school girl just because you are excited to hear from your partner. It is really amazing the feelings you feel and the way your mind thinks when you are in love. It is joking together and laughing together. It is where you can pick on one another and know it is all fun and games, but it is only fun and games till someone gets hurts. So don't fall to hard off your chair or walk into things. lol. You do that and you're asking to get made fun of. Enjoy your relationship. Don't make it like others. Let it be your own thing and grow it into something beautiful together.


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