Now this part is for the guys. Guy we also have it for the ladies in the next post as well. I have a guy that is doing the views from a MANS point of view, but it will be seperate so you can see the difference and go hey wait what about the ladies. They need to be there for us too and I completely agree. Which is why this part is going to be a two parter.
Yeah you all see how I capitalized MAN?! I'll tell you why I did that too no worries. See There is a big difference in life between a BOY and a MAN. A BOY will sweet talk you, sweep you off your feet. A MAN can and will do all that too, but he also shows the actions to prove it. A BOY will NOT show the actions. A BOY will say one thing and then do another. He doesn't keep his promises. He isn't faithful. He rather just do his thing and not care about others around him. A MAN WILL make time for his woman. He will be there for here physically, mentally and emotionally. A BOY will not. How can you be there physically, but not mentally or emotionally? That is an easy answer. You may be there in the room with her, but if you are not paying attention to her and your mind is somewhere else and thinking about other things then you are only physically there. You can't answer her question or give her advice like she is hoping for or even be there to show your support. You are just there like a blob taking up space. Now what about the mentally and emotional part? When you are listening and truly paying attention like a real MAN you can show that you are really there to support her. You paid attention so along with showing that you supported her and was BEING THERE while she opened up to you, you can now offer her some advice or answer and questions she may have asked. I know it isn't easy for guys to open up to us, but if you do it makes us feel so much more important to you. When you can show us that you are there mentally and emotionally there you will truly have the key to her heart because she will feel like she can always count on you. Show her you are emotionally there by reading her body language. Did she get all dolled up? She did it just for you to make you feel good and because she loves looking good for you. Is she in sweats or pajamas already? If so then she most likely had a really hard day. Make sure to ask about her day. Listen...don't yell at her for telling you how her day was or attack her, but listen so you can tell her it will all be okay or talk about how you can help her through whatever she is going through. In a nice tone tell her about your day so she can get the chance to show you that she is there for you too. If you are a BOY you won't be able to do any of this and this post will most likely just piss you off and I am here to say if you are pissed off at this you need to grow the f*** up and fast. Or step down. That would be the better thing to do till you can really be there. If you can't do this do no marry yet. You aren't near ready for a marriage and still have a lot to learn. Now if a MAN was there all his attention would be on her, looking into her eyes as she talks, holding her as she expressed herself to him and would wait for his turn to talk and be there any way she needs. If she calls you and needs your help would you stop what you are doing to be with her? If not because you wanna finish whatever you are doing you are not being there for here and that makes you a BOY. If you tell her "yeah Babe I'm on my way just give me a few" and show up a few mins later even if you are out with friends or work then congrats you are a MAN. GENTLEMAN are real MEN!!! So be a Man and step up or do us all a favor and step down in out. A woman needs a MAN who will be there physically, mentally and emotionally. Not one or the other; and definitely not just whenever it is convenient to you. A BOY will be sweet once in a while to try to keep her. A MAN will show her how much she means to him everyday in loving ways. Such as a text. Did you know a simple text saying "Hope you have a great day!" can make a woman melt? The fact that you cared to send her that text shows her that you were thinking of her and puts a smile on her face so big it might even make her blush. Sending a text doesn't take much energy, but there can be a lot of meaning behind it. So check on her. Send her I love you texts at random times. Again it lets her know she is on your mind. Or maybe just make a quick call. I mean after all who doesn't like hearing his woman's voice?! If you said Me then oh my goodness you are far from having a healthy marriage or relationship. Sorry if that is to honest for you. MEN treat their woman with the utmost lost and respect. MEN try to be everything the can to their Woman. A MAN will get her flowers for no reason at all. A MAN needs NO excuse to give his lady something pretty to look at throughout the day; and if you can not be there, even something simple as seeing a pretty plant or a bouquet at the grocery store, send her a picture of it and tell her you were thinking of her. Although now you can still have some delivered, the simple thought is what counts. So at the end of the day a real WOMAN wants a MAN.
Next post is the man's point of view :-) (coming soon)...
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